Trinity Bible Church Ottawa
Sunday's A Coming - June 15 2012
My Dear Friends:
You ever see the movie "The Godfather?" There’s a scene in the beginning where the godfather is talking to one of his sons. And he says, "Sonny, do you spend time with your family?" And Sonny said, "Yes, father." And the Godfather says, "Good. Because a man who doesn’t spend time with his family isn’t a real man."
The older I get, the more I realize how true this is. It is so important that we spend lots of time with the family, not just “some” quality time. What I find interesting though is this, when you read through the Bible, it’s hard to find good dads like that. Dads who appear to spend a lot of time with the family and whose kids turn out well. In fact, some of the most successful men of God outside the home seem to have been complete failures inside the home. Look at King David. He was so busy running the kingdom of Israel that he had no time to take care of the kingdom of David! David’s sons turned out to be a bunch of rebel rousers! Read 2 Samuel 13 to the end of the book, and you’ll see what I mean.
And what about Solomon? He was so busy trying to please his 700 wives and his 300 girlfriends that he didn’t have much time for his kids until he got old and wrote the book of Proverbs. From my perspective that seems to be a little late to get the parenting thing going.
And the same thing is true of Samuel. In 1 Samuel 8, when Israel asked for a king, Samuel said, "What about my sons? And the people of Israel said, "No way, dude! Your sons are a bunch of evil pagans! They take bribes. They pervert justice. Forget it!" Samuel was a powerful prophet but also a failed father. I don’t think Samuel was all that involved in his children’s lives.
I am presently reading through Judges and am somewhat fascinated by the continuous failure of people to remain faithful to God. I now wonder how much of this is a result of poor family life and the training of the young.
Tonight, 40% of all North American children will go to sleep in a house in which their fathers do not live. Before the age of eighteen, more than 50% of our children will spend a significant portion of their childhood living apart from their fathers. A generation ago, in North America a child could reasonably expect to grow up with a dad. Today, children can reasonably expect not to. Fatherlessness is the most harmful demographic trend of our time.
This Sunday is Father’s Day. It is a day that should be marked with celebration and honor for dad. As of late though this day has become one of the most confusing days of the year, from questions of who is my father to where is my daddy, to step daddy vs. biological daddy, to women trying to be fathers and mothers, to no man present at all. In our church family we have people from all of these experiences, and together we are trying to get this thing called family done well. Together we try to encourage and coach one another.
Many dads are absent today. If trends continue, many dads who are present in the family today probably won’t be in a few years time. On Sunday we will talk about commitment in a very real hard hitting way. We will compare sunshine commitment to real commitment. Sunshine commitment is the dominant form of commitment in our culture today. We are rampant with it. What is sunshine commitment? Sunshine Commitment: I am committed as long as everything is going well but the minute hard times arise, the minute a gray cloud is on the horizon, I am out the door. On Sunday we will look at Luke 14:25-32 to learn what commitment looks like from God’s perspective.
You want an awesome marriage, blessed family, it comes down to commitment.
God loves you and so do I,